Am I Gay Quiz

Important Disclaimer

This Am I Gay Quiz is designed as an exploratory tool to help you reflect on your feelings and attractions. It is not a diagnostic gay test and cannot definitively determine your sexual orientation.

Sexual orientation exists on a spectrum and can be fluid throughout one's life. Your feelings and attractions are valid regardless of how you identify. This quiz simply offers a framework for self-reflection.

Remember that only you can determine your sexual orientation, and there's no rush to label yourself. Take your time to explore and understand your feelings.

Welcome to the Quiz

This quiz contains 32 questions about attraction, fantasy, emotional connection, reactions, and self-cognition. Take your time and answer honestly for the most meaningful reflection.

Gay Quiz Question List

Below are all 32 questions overview for the Am I Gay Quiz.

1When you think of an 'ideal' or 'attractive person', which gender(s) do you primarily think of?

A. Primarily men

B. Primarily women

C. Both men and women about equally

D. Rarely/no interest in any gender, or interested in other genders

2In daily life, which gender(s) of people more easily attract your visual attention?

A. Primarily men

B. Primarily women

C. Both men and women about equally

D. Rarely/no interest in any gender, or interested in other genders

3When you see someone you find attractive, does this feeling lean more toward appreciation (thinking they look good) or desire to approach/connect (romantic/sexual attraction)? Which gender(s) does this feeling primarily target?

A. More toward desire to approach/connect with men

B. More toward desire to approach/connect with women

C. Similar levels of desire for men and women

D. Rarely experience this desire, or it targets other genders

4Recalling your past 'crushes' or 'infatuations', which gender(s) were they primarily?

A. Primarily men

B. Primarily women

C. Both men and women about equally

D. Rarely/never had crushes on any gender, or had crushes on other genders

5Do you find yourself particularly appreciating or fascinated by the physical features or appearance (such as voice, body type, style) of the same gender?

A. Yes, I often feel this way

B. Yes, I sometimes feel this way

C. I rarely feel this way

D. I never feel this way or I'm not sure

6When interacting with different genders, do you feel it's easier to develop 'chemistry' or 'butterflies' with certain gender(s)?

A. Primarily feel it's easier with men

B. Primarily feel it's easier with women

C. Feel it's about equally easy with men and women

D. Rarely feel this way, or feel it's easier with other genders

7On social media or in real life, which gender(s) of strangers do you tend to follow or track, simply because you find them attractive?

A. Tend to follow men more

B. Tend to follow women more

C. Follow men and women about equally

D. Rarely follow strangers based on attraction, or follow other genders

8Excluding social pressure or expectations, purely from your inner feelings, which gender(s) do you feel can spark your romantic interest?

A. Primarily feel romantic interest toward men

B. Primarily feel romantic interest toward women

C. Feel similar levels of romantic interest toward men and women

D. Rarely feel romantic interest toward any gender, or feel it toward other genders

9In your romantic fantasies or daydreams, which gender(s) are typically the main characters?

A. Typically men

B. Typically women

C. Men and women about equally

D. Rarely have romantic fantasies, or they involve other genders

10When you imagine a perfect date scenario, which gender(s) is your date?

A. Typically a man

B. Typically a woman

C. Could be either a man or woman

D. Rarely imagine dating, or imagine dating other genders

11In your sexual fantasies (if any), which gender(s) are primarily involved?

A. Primarily men

B. Primarily women

C. Men and women about equally

D. Rarely have sexual fantasies, or they involve other genders

12Have you ever fantasized about establishing a long-term, stable relationship with someone of the same gender? How does this thought make you feel (e.g., excited, comfortable, curious, repulsed, indifferent)?

A. The feeling is positive (e.g., excited, comfortable, curious)

B. The feeling is neutral or uncertain

C. The feeling is uncomfortable or repulsive

D. Never had such fantasies, or feel very repulsed

13When reading romance novels, watching movies or TV shows, which gender combination love stories make you feel more resonance or immersion?

A. Same-gender couple love stories

B. Different-gender couple love stories

C. Love stories of various gender combinations can resonate

D. Rarely resonate with love stories, or resonate with other gender combinations

14If you could freely choose to enter a virtual perfect romantic relationship, which gender(s) would you choose as your partner?

A. Would choose a male partner

B. Would choose a female partner

C. Could be either male or female

D. Not sure, or would choose another gender partner

15Have you ever imagined intimate acts (such as kissing, hugging, sexual contact) with someone of the same gender? What feelings does this imagination bring?

A. The feeling is positive (e.g., excited, curious, comfortable)

B. The feeling is neutral or uncertain

C. The feeling is uncomfortable or repulsive

D. Never had such fantasies, or feel very repulsed

16Imagine the future, with which gender(s) would you like to build a family or share life?

A. Would like to build with a man

B. Would like to build with a woman

C. Could build with either a man or woman

D. Not sure, or would like to build with another gender

17Do you feel it's easier to establish deep emotional connections and understanding with certain gender(s)?

A. Feel it's easier with men

B. Feel it's easier with women

C. The ease of establishing deep emotional connections is about the same with men and women

D. Difficult to establish deep emotional connections with any gender, or easier with other genders

18When you encounter difficulties or need to confide, which gender(s) of friends do you tend to seek emotional support from (excluding family)? Does this potentially carry romantic feelings?

A. Tend to seek support from men, and may carry potential romantic feelings

B. Tend to seek support from women, and may carry potential romantic feelings

C. Seek support from men and women equally, and usually doesn't carry potential romantic feelings

D. Rarely seek emotional support from any gender, or only feel friendship, or seek from other genders

19In intimate relationships with same-gender friends, have you ever felt emotional sparks or tension that transcend friendship boundaries?

A. Yes, I've had such feelings

B. Occasionally had such feelings, but not often

C. Never had such feelings, just pure friendship

D. I rarely establish deep intimate relationships with same-gender friends

20Do you feel it's easier to show your true self or feel relaxed and understood when with the same gender?

A. Yes, it's easier when with the same gender

B. Feel it's easier when with the opposite gender

C. Feel about the same with any gender

D. Not easy to show true self with any gender

21When establishing intimate relationships (whether friendship or potential romance), do you value spiritual compatibility more or physical attraction? Does this preference differ when facing different genders?

A. Regardless of gender, I value spiritual compatibility more

B. Regardless of gender, I value physical attraction more

C. There are obvious differences in what I value for different genders

D. Both are important, and there's no obvious difference for different genders, or I'm not sure

22Do you desire to establish a special, exclusive emotional bond with someone of the same gender?

A. Yes, strongly desire

B. Yes, sometimes have this thought

C. Rarely have this thought

D. Never have this thought, or I'm not sure

23When you see same-gender couples expressing love publicly (such as holding hands, hugging), what is your typical first reaction (e.g., warmth, envy, curiosity, discomfort, indifference)?

A. Feel positive (e.g., warmth, envy, curiosity)

B. Feel neutral or indifferent

C. Feel somewhat uncomfortable or confused

D. Feel disgusted or repulsed

24If someone of the same gender expresses affection or love to you, how would you feel (even if you don't reciprocate)?

A. Feel positive or curious (even if not reciprocating)

B. Feel neutral or uncertain

C. Feel somewhat uncomfortable or confused

D. Feel repulsed or disgusted

25In artworks, films, or literature depicting same-gender love, do you feel touched, curious, or resonant?

A. Yes, often feel touched, curious, or resonant

B. Yes, sometimes feel

C. Rarely feel or don't notice

D. Never have this feeling, or feel uncomfortable

26When having physical contact with the same gender (such as hugging, patting shoulders), have you ever had special feelings different from when contacting the opposite gender (possibly nervousness, excitement, or special comfort)?

A. Yes, have had different special feelings

B. Occasionally had, but not often

C. Feel about the same as contacting the opposite gender, no special difference

D. Generally uncomfortable with physical contact or indifferent

27Have you ever felt confused or uneasy because of good feelings or special friendship toward the same gender?

A. Yes, often feel confused or uneasy

B. Yes, sometimes feel confused or uneasy

C. Rarely feel confused or uneasy

D. Never felt confused or uneasy because of this

28During puberty or earlier, were your feelings toward the same gender obviously different from your feelings toward the opposite gender?

A. Yes, feelings were obviously different

B. There were some differences, but not very obvious

C. Feelings were about the same as toward the opposite gender

D. I'm not sure or don't remember

29Have you ever questioned your sexual orientation? How frequently does this questioning occur?

A. Yes, I often do

B. Yes, I sometimes do

C. I rarely do

D. I've never questioned

30Have you ever actively searched for information about homosexuality, bisexuality, or other sexual orientations? What was the purpose (e.g., curiosity, self-understanding, seeking resonance)?

A. Mainly out of curiosity and self-understanding

B. Mainly to find resonance and community

C. Mainly to understand different labels

D. I rarely or never actively search for this information

31Among labels like 'homosexual', 'bisexual', 'pansexual', 'asexual', 'heterosexual', which one (or more) do you feel might partially or fully match your inner feelings? Or do you feel none apply/uncertain?

A. Feel more inclined toward homosexual, bisexual, or pansexual labels

B. Feel more inclined toward heterosexual label

C. Feel the asexual label is closer to my feelings, or I'm not interested in sexual attraction

D. Feel no label fully applies, or I'm uncertain about my feelings

32If completely setting aside the views and expectations of society, family, and friends, which gender(s) do you feel attracted to in your deepest heart?

A. Feel in my deepest heart I'm mainly attracted to men

B. Feel in my deepest heart I'm mainly attracted to women

C. Feel in my deepest heart I'm attracted to both men and women

D. Feel in my deepest heart I'm rarely attracted to any gender, or attracted to other genders